I don’t know if your like me, but my automatic response to a question usually ends with my saying yes. I love helping and I love “saving” the day.
‘Yes, I can help you those days!’
‘Yes, I can bake 10 dozen cookies for that.’
‘Yes, I can pick up the slack.’
‘Yes, I can fill in for you!’
‘Yes, I can watch your kids this day and that.’
I have realized that saying yes to every good thing (and these are good things) has taken away from being able to say yes to the best things. I am learning to put safe guards in place preventing the crash and burn. I have come to know that just because there is a need, I don’t have to be the one to fill it, regardless if there is nobody else willing to step up. Someone is always going to have an opinion out there, whether I am doing too much or not enough. I’m not here to please people, there is only one approval I seek. When I take the time, pray about an opportunity and seek His will for the situation everyone benefits.
I mentioned placing safe guards in my life to ensure I am functioning at my highest performance and I would love to elaborate on those…
1.) Carving time out for God daily in devotion and prayer. This is where I find clarification and direction.
2.) They say you are what you eat. I wish this one wasn’t true, oh how I love food! I find my mental health and physical wellness directly links to what I choose to put in my mouth. I am trying to make healthy choices for optimal energy.
3.) Pulling back the reigns and re-evaluating my busyness. Asking the question- am I pouring into something that is also benefiting/pouring into others’ lives, or is all my energy going down the drain with no evidence of any fruits?
Change can be hard. Even unnerving at times, the unknown is a little scary and saying no sometimes “feels” selfish to the outsiders view. However, when we wait for those perfect opportunities to arise that we are called to do and resist the temptation by saying yes to every little thing, the results will be amazing. Our reserves will be filled and the fruits will be overflowing.
Saying no to a good thing is hard for me, but guarding my yeses has become more important. I want to be a blessing to those God has placed in my life and give them my best, I can’t do that if I am caught up in the rat race of life.
After having countless conversations with a couple close friends of mine about this very topic, I was blessed to receive this book full of life giving words-
Trading life draining obligations for freedom, passion and joy. I can feel a heavy weight lifting off my shoulders that was never intended to be there, and it is freeing.
Not to say we can’t have full busy lives, but the right kind of busy…
I hope you have enjoyed reading along as I learn what it takes to say no, and save my yes for the best.
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
Proverbs 4:23 NLT